History will continue to repeat itself in your life, in your family and around you for as long as you (we) are not ready to learn from past errors.

World war2 happened not long after World War 1 ended because they didnt learn from the past. Point proving don’t change history, it makes things worse.

Destruction is inevitable in a society where people are not prepared to learn and put into action POSITIVE and CONSTRUCTIVE plans and ATTITUDES that everyone will benefit from.

So called curses are not as a result of failures, they are as a result of SELFISH behaviour that people refuses to change…..

Don’t let us allow history to keep on repeating itself in our lives, BE THE CHANGE THAT IS NEEDED IN YOUR FAMILY…..

Be a better person to the next person for a better and greater society and home.


Intelligent and Relationship

Intelligent and relationship.

Before you argue what is sensible with anyone, make sure their level of intelligent is as high as yours, or else you will become an ignorant or nuisance during the discussion.

People set in their ways are the most difficult people to marry or date so choose your spouse also based on their level of intelligent or else you will not enjoy such union.

Education is brilliant, experience is fabulous and riches is wonderful but if you have all these and you are lacking an inch of common sense, God given HOLY SPIRIT and wisdom, most times you will be talking out of your ass instead of your mouth.

Get wisdom, acquire godly understanding and most importantly, DONT LIVE ACCORDING TO THE NORMS OF THIS WORLD.

You want a peaceful marriage/relationship ensure that your spouse has got the intelligent and wisdom to apply plain common sense. Many unions are breaking down today as a result of lack of WISDOM and intelligent.

Remember, a spouse that is willing to learn godly things is better than a spouse that believe he or she have seen it all.



Sexual Urge and Love

Sexual Urge and Love..

(1). If you are desperate for sex or your sex urge is high, how you feel about the person you are with or just met will be different after sex and you will most likely lose the love and affection after having sex with the person until next time you are in that urgency state again.

(2). The person you TRULY LOVE BEFORE SEX will remain special to you even after sex, you will not lose the affection or the care. Every thing about the person should and would be exactly the way it was before sex.

Sex don’t make you love someone more, it only makes you fantasize more about the person.

Fantasy is not love and majority of the time, it’s a sign that you are LUST .


Remember, there is an hormone in our body that releases love/affection feeling from time to time so if you meet someone when that hormone is at work, you will surely be used to satisfy the urge. Thinking about it, have you had sex with someone before and after sex you felt different or the person changed towards you? It’s that sexual desire hormone that was at work not real love.

You cannot or I should say, it will be extra difficult to fall in love with someone you sexually like UNTIL YOUR LIFE HAS EXPERIENCED REAL LIFE CRISIS.   (Come and prove me wrong on that if you have your facts).

Sex before you TRULY FALL IN LOVE with someone is just a test drive.



Bed of Roses

Bed of Roses…..

Marriage or relationship should ALWAYS be a bed of roses if you are truly in it for the right reasons.

Because you have your odd disagreements now and again doesn’t mean it should be a bed of spikes, BUT if your marriage or relationship is NOT mutually defined, then you will experience the saying “marriage is not a bed of roses”.

Remember the good old adage, ‘THE WAY YOU LAY YOUR BED YOU LIE ON IT’, it means exactly that. Be the orchestra of happiness and peace in your marriage or relationship. Stick to your vows, RESPECT each other without barriers. Be open with each other without reservations; bring into your relationship something called HUMILITY. Avoid everything your spouse dont like a plague without it interfering with GOD’S principles. Remove all manmade principles and norms and reconcile with those things that are right and just.

Marriage/relationship are to be ENJOYED and NOT TO BE ENDURED. When you begin to endure what you should be enjoying, you have indirectly lost the flavour that made it sweet and beautiful in the first place. The only time you need to practice ENDURANCE in your marriage/relationship is when it has to do with your relationship/marital vows that says “in sickness and in health”….. You also need to practice ENDURANCE in “for richer for poorer” BUT when your spouse is lazy, irresponsible and defrauding others that is wrong., no one should have to endure a lazy, irresponsible and defrauding partner THAT IS NOT READY TO CHANGE. A relationship that you have been honest with each other FINANCIALLY can be easily endured and in turn enjoyed.

A spouse that put him or herself first in the financial aspect of a relationship will end up making his or her partner to sleep on a bed of spikes.

If finance doesn’t break your relationship, bad habits will. And if bad habits doesn’t break your marriage, DISHONESTY will. So, remove bad habits, DISHONESTY and financial greed that brings about laziness and selfish reasoning.

The power to make your relationship/marriage a bed of roses is in your hands…. USE IT.


Your Fears

Things you fear the most.

Whatever you fear the most will ALWAYS torment you in your dreams.

Whatever you continue to worry about will ALWAYS cause you lose it through misbehaviour

Whatever you desperately want or need will always cause you to fear and worry.

Bad dreams are as a result of our worries and fears over certain things and they will always manifest in real life through our lack of knowledge or believe that they are real and truly happening.

Put yourself to test by making notes of your dreams and actions during the day. One day when you are happy or in good frame of mind, take the note to a good listener that is full of WISDOM, NOT A SPIRITUALIST if you can avoid it but if you cant make sure the spirituality is endowed with TRUE KNOWLEDGE AND FEAR OF GOD. But the best person to decode your notes will be yourself if you are ready to learn ..

So to do it yourself, make note of the things you want/wished for in life, how you think you can achieve them and what not achieving them may do to you physically (e.g. not having a husband will not make me happy, not having a child of my own will not make me happy etc). In no time, you will see the relationship between your fears, dreams, needs and wants and realise that foundation verse that says “as a you thinketh, so you are”.

You are the product of your thoughts, you will dream and fear negative things you projected and begin to lose on qualities of life because your focus will be on wrong things.

Change your mentality, FREE YOURSELF FROM YOURSELF, accept the true process of life, stop running helter skelter looking for answers when you already have the solution.

Be real with yourself….




Life is full of unexpected miracles/situations and disasters.

We cannot fight or wade off the things that life throws at us but we can develop the wisdom, knowledge and understanding as to their causes, why they occur and why we must learn to endure them when they do occur.

A heart that is always expecting goodness will suffer pains greatly even when it is not needed. We need to understand life’s fundamental truth that says ‘take from the good and from the bad to make a perfect day’. Life gets better when we accept that not everything that we want will be granted and not everything that we dont want will not happen – both the good and bad happen for a reason and reasons best known to God.

In all your adversaries, always remember that the law of Karma supersedes your expectations, wishes or dreams. YOU WILL REAP WHATEVER YOU SOW, NO MATTER HOW ATOMIC OR GIGANTIC IT MAY BE. Guess what? No one is exempted from Karma’s law the same way that no one is excluded from death.

Appreciate today, be there for others and make yourself real enough that you are almost transparent with little or no obscurity.

Life is too short to be drowning yourself in things that will never go six feet under with you…

Live and let live.


Time and Money

Time and Money

In relationship both time and money are needed and required TO GIVEN in order for it (relationship) to be successful.

Giving time without money (especially when you don’t and do have it) is a path to disaster; giving money without time (especially when you don’t and do have it) can also be a route to anger.

What time gives in a relationship, money will never give it and what money gives in a relationship, time will never give it. You need to get the balance right and must always make it your priority (especially if you are a MAN) to ALWAYS give both.

Lack of either and both is not good but lack of time can be the worst because TIME makes the world goes round and TIME they say is the greatest healer. Although money they say answereth all (MATERIAL THINGS),  but TIME resolves all (MATERIAL THINGS AND GODLINESS).

Remember, it also depends on your level of WISDOM and INTEGRITY.


Enjoy Life

‘Enjoy life’

Do you remember that good old saying ‘enjoy life, we are only here once’?.

To many, to enjoy life means to get drunk, party like animal, date all available men/women and merry today like no man’s business – well I tell you today, to enjoy life do not mean you should be abusing your body (your health), in everything in you do, you must always remember that enjoyment must not include abuse of your soul and body.

‘Enjoy life – we are only here once’ means, DONT TAKE LIFE SERIOUSLY, learn to live everything at his (God’s) feet. You don’t enjoy your moments in life when you are constantly in competition with others and yourself, you don’t enjoy life when you make things seem so complicated and a struggle to deal with. You dont enjoy life when all you think about is how to make money, you are materialistic and you don’t enjoy life when you only care about yourself.

There is no enjoyment or fulfilment in being selfish or self centered; making yourself open to all life’s positive possibilities will allow you to gain wisdom, knowledge and understanding.

Stop shutting yourself up, live and let live; be reasonable, be concise. Know what you want and have full understanding of your needs. Dont be ignorant, be a willing learner, never allow age to stand in the way of you and the truth, release yourself from all manmade dos and donts and concentrate on what is true and godly.

Enjoy life that is full of integrity and humanity, make it a duty to invest valuable time and effort in other people’s lives (even if they don’t show appreciation).

Most importantly, YOU DON’T HAVE TO HAVE EVERYTHING BECAUSE YOU DONT NEED EVERYTHING….. Learn to be pleased with and appreciate what you presently have….

Try to enjoy every minute of your day today – thank God, no one is got more than 24hours in a day. Spend yours wisely.

Bless …….

Release your past!

Release your past…..

You can never understand and accept what is true and right if you are still living in the past…..

Allow all that has happened in the past to remain in the past if you want to be successful or great or have a good relationship….


Learn to give people, spouses etc the opportunity to correct their wrongs instead of you concluding that they are forever bad, yes some people don’t change BUT THEY DONT NEED YOU TO KEEP ON HAMMERING THEIR PAST INTO THEIR EARS, instead let the person be….

Relishing in the past means YOU SHOULD NOT BE TAKEN INTO THE FUTURE AS WELL….. And if truly you are struggling to let go of the past then let the other person go instead of you holding them to ransom of forgiveness that will never come at the appropriate time.

If you cannot let go of the past, then you are just as evil as what led to your anger with the person…..


They do get tired eventually

From my bbm contact….

IMG_20150302_152617So true, they do get tired of it and then move on and no matter how much you try to get them back, THEY MAY NEVER COME BACK…… So treat those who love you VERY RIGHT from the beginning

When they walk away, it doesnt mean that they no longer love you, they just decide to find someone else who is ready for REAL and TRUE love and the one who won’t play mind games….

When they are gone, THEY ARE GONEEEE