New Year Relationship Rules 2
Reflecting on my life and I can confidently say that anger ruined many of the things that I could have saved in any of the relationships I have had, inclusive of my marriage.
Not that I am that bad when it comes to anger but I tend to loose my self esteem and confidence at the sight of little misunderstandings or problems in my relationship. I strongly believe that this was due to so many underlying factors of my life that I kept on blaming others for when I was suppose to let go of them all and move on.
Anger has cost me thousands of pounds and dollars and millions of naira, in which could have been avoided if I had looked at the bigger picture.
Dating someone that suffers from anger is like you trying to have a foundation for your mansion on top of a sea, how possible is that? Although people that have anger issues are generally the loveliest people in the world especially when it comes to integrity but they tend to lose the trust their spouse has in them after few temperaments that resulted in serious misunderstanding…
So let anger be a rule for you in the new year, if you know that he or she is not ready to work on his or her anger, I will suggest you take your leave. Moses could have gotten to the promised land if not for anger despite all he did, so if you want to get to your cannan land, check out the person you call your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend, how are they dealing with anger.
Dating someone with anger issues doesn’t just go away, they need major counselling and honesty to be able to get to the root of their problem and if they are not ready, believe me, YOU CANNOT HELP THEM….
Yes that lady/guy has helped you in the past to get you to where you are but it doesn’t mean you should endanger your sanity with their foolishness of anger…..
And if you dont deal with your anger, don’t blame it on some spiritual forces that aren’t there. It is a personal choice….
No point in having a lion or cobra as a pet when you already know that they are wild animals, even zoo keepers do get attacked by them so do you want them in your house…. Same rule applies to spouses with anger issues, keep them at arms length, they aren’t worth your time because they will eventually destroy that phone, computer, car, house, beauty etc one day all in the name of you got them angry…..