Papers or Integrity?????….
Many years ago someone very close to me dated a lazy that we believed was a strong Christian, as a matter of fact she was a loyal member of Deeper life church, no ear-ring, no make up and no trousers, here in UK.
My cousin was a very lovely guy, hard working, monday to friday and uses his saturday to play football whilst the partner/wife goes to church services. Each time i visited them, i always ask the lady how she was coping with a man that is always going to play football and she would say “dont worry, i love him like that, he doesnt drink or smoke or womanise, i like it like that” … ok i said. Continue reading Papers or Integrity?????….
From my inbox….. Who should I marry him?
Aunty Abefe, I have been here in europe for the past 5years and half. Infact I have Tasted what is called suffer and penury..
My sister who brought me to europe ask me to pay her some 20.000euros.. she drove me out of her house and she didn,t even put me through on how to make this money.
She wants me to go into prostitution, i tried it before, only 2weeks the police caught me and GOD saved me that they didn,t depoort me anymore after spending several months in prison. meanwhile i fought all this battle alone, as none of my siblings came to look for me or even took a lawyer for me, they all changed their numbers.. Continue reading Who should I marry him?
The question is, does sex change a relationship. The answer is, it can. Sex can be intimate. Sex isn’t always intimate, but it can be intimate. Intimacy is a closeness, connection, bond or love shared between two people. When you include intimacy with sex, it can help to bond two people, form a stronger or new connection and may even cause you to love a person more.
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TODAY’S WORD FOR TODAY
‘‘Two people are better off than one.’
The UCB Word for Today – 29 Nov 2014
Take the initiative. Don’t wait to be introduced. Say ‘hello’ and get the other person’s name. If you’re naturally shy, it can be hard taking the first step. But the chances are that the other person feels the same, and when you start talking you’ll find things in common. Take a risk. If you like somebody, go a little deeper and mention a small struggle, fear, or disappointment you’ve experienced. It’s called ‘manageable risk’ and it lets you gauge how the other person responds. If they’re caring and identify with what you’re saying, that’s a good sign. If they shut down, try to fix you or respond critically, it may be time to move on. Invite them to join you. If everything else works out, exchange ‘phone numbers and invite the other person for coffee or lunch. Then go for a second meeting and give it a little time; that way you’ll know if it’s a friendship worth developing. Find out where people go to spend time. There are lots of places to get to know new people, like church, the gym, school, a play group, or volunteer service.
Be willing to leave your comfort zone and try new situations. Remember that God uses all kinds of friendships to fulfil His purpose. One prominent preacher says: ‘There are friends who were instrumental in my blessing, although they never embraced or affirmed me. These are the “Judas sector” that exists in the life of every child of God…the ones who cause you the most pain. They wound…and betray you, but through their betrayal God’s will can be executed in your life.’ Ask God for a friend, then go out and make one!
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From my inbox….. He’s got two more
Good day sister Abefe, I am at a cross road right now and don’t know where to turn to. I met my husband about 15years ago who had one child from a lady he doesn’t see anymore when I met him. One year into our relationship I instisted that he must contact the lady so that he can be a responsible father to his child and he did. He visit his child and gives money every month.
Sister Abefe, we got married about 11years ago with three kids now but to my surprise, about a month ago someone contacted me saying my husband has got two more kids with his baby mother. Sister Abefe, in shock i followed the lady on Facebook to make sure she’s the one and yes she had got three kids with my husband. My husband don’t go partying, very reserved and only go to his child/ren every month. The kids are older than my children and can’t believe this has actually happened to me.
I don’t know what I want to say or what question to ask i just think I need to cry out somehow. Sister Abefe, please talk to me, I am losing my sanity
In all things, give thanks….
The most difficult times to give thanks to God are when are sick, broke, poor, powerless, in vulnerable position or condition, when no one seems to love or care about us and when we find ourselves entangled in life’s unexplainable predicaments…
Over the past few years I have learnt to see death as the best option or alternative to living because it’s an unavoidable end that we must all go through at some point in life but most importantly it has stopped the spirit of fear from hunting me like a plague especially since the death of my sister last year.. Continue reading In all things, give thanks….
From my inbox…. Separate rooms
Aunty Abefe, please help me throw this question to members of the house, is there anything wrong in husband and wife sleeping in seperate rooms?
From my inbox…… Testimony…
Hi aunty, remember me? I sent you a message sometime late last year. I told you I fell pregnant on the marina coil and I really needed help to get rid of the pregnancy. I later called and explained to you how my husband and i had plans not to have any more kids as we were already satisfied with our lovely boys.
You encouraged me then to keep the baby, making me believe it is a blessing in disguise. I took to your advice despite the fact that it was really difficult for me.Here I am today with the most beautiful gift of all, a precious and adorable baby girl. Infact, I love her more than myself. Thank you aunty for those words of wisdom and encouragment you gave me. God bless your household
I cannot thank God enough for what he’s doing on this group/forum…, Lord let thy name be glorified..
And continue to bless this family and be their pillar forever. She didn’t want to go ahead but you helped her to get through it and may your help continue in the this family and make the joy permanent in Jesus name….. Amen